We all feel stressed at one point or another of our life. But it’s fair to say that considering divorce or dealing with the aftermath of one is very high in the scale of stress. For some it can even be one of the most stressful event they will ever experience.
This stress is linked to the known factors of this change of life like moving or dealing with the financial aspects of the divorce. At the same time many of the stressors are linked to the unknown of the situation.
We all know that most often than not stress is counter productive, so at a time we would need all of our mental and physical energy…
- Why do we get stressed?
- Why a same or similar situation will triggers you more than someone else?
- What are the benefits and the consequences of stress?
- More importantly, how do YOU react to stress in general and what can you do to respond in a more healthy way?
Stress is created by your own attitude and reaction to life. It is determined by a belief structure that was formed when you were very young. For example, a person who grew up with a dysfunctional family will tend to respond differently to the stress of a divorce than someone growing in a peaceful and loving environment. It doesn’t mean that they will react more or less. It means that they will react differently according to the belief system they developed over the years.
One reason divorce or heartbreak creates stress is that we believe that something is happening TO us. This thing happening “to us” can be related to work, time, health, and in our case, a change of the family situation. The problem triggers a feeling of loss of control creating what we call stress.
Stress is a normal response to events that make you feel threatened or upset on one way or another. It triggers what is described as a “flight-fight-freeze” reaction. This reaction is linked to the production of hormones like cortisol and adrenaline. When under stress, your heart pounds faster, your muscles tighten and you are more alert. This is a way your body is there to protect you. Stress helps you stay focus, energized. It can give you extra strength to defend yourself in an emergency situation or sharpen your concentration. Unfortunately, it can also paralyze you or create frustration, anxiety and fear.
All of this is theory and I am sure your most urgent question will be: HOW CAN I BE LESS STRESSED?
To answer this question, I would first need to assess what is your response to stress. And to do that I developed an assessment in 40 questions. To access this assessment fill up this form and click send