Happiness is made of little moments, little choices.
Happiness is when you decide to smile in the morning and focus on the positive instead of the negative.
Happiness is when you let go of what is not serving you: a toxic relationship, a dismissive belief, an old story...
Happiness is a reminder to you that you are perfectly imperfect. That pain is inevitable but that you control the suffering this pain creates in you and around you.
Sometimes life happens and you crumble under pressure. Too much work, too much stress, not enough money, feeling lonely. When this happens, it's natural to react in two different ways: you can feel like a victim and feel sad, even depressed or you can feel angry and fight. That's what we often describe as the freeze, fight, fly response.
Getting a "negative" or "catabolic" response to the stress of life is not the problem. The problem is: how much are you staying stuck in this response?
If you have been stuck for way too long, it may be time to do something about it. There are many tools to move up on the scale from catabolic to anabolic energy.*
The number one tool is to feel and acknowledge your feelings.
You have the right to feel the way you feel and beating yourself up for feeling that way won't help. So feel it and then let go. Fighting the feeling will actually increase it over time and even if you can forget about it for a while, it will reappear later on in your life when you least expect it.
Obviously there is more than one tool to release stress: EFT or Tapping, Therapeutic shaking, exercise, walking in nature, meditation and so many more.
One thing I do every day is to ask myself, how do I feel today? And if there is something to address, I address the feeling right away, before it becomes a monster.
Breathing, Feeling, Smiling! Have a FabYOUlicious day :)
*The Energy Pyramid is an excerpt from my book Renaissance Woman: A Feminine Midlife Crisis from Loss of identity to rebirth. Order your copy of the book here.